In recent years, the term “toxic masculinity” has gained attention in discussions about gender, behaviour, and societal expectations. While masculinity itself is not harmful, toxic masculinity refers to cultural norms that promote dominance, aggression, emotional suppression, and the objectification of women. These attitudes can contribute to harmful behaviours, including harassment, violence, and gender inequality.
For young girls and women, understanding toxic masculinity is crucial for recognising red flags and protecting themselves in various environments—whether at school, work, or in relationships. Here’s how to stay informed and proactive.
What Is Toxic Masculinity?
Toxic masculinity enforces rigid stereotypes, such as:
- Aggression as strength – Believing that anger and violence are signs of power.
- Emotional repression – The idea that men should not show vulnerability.
- Dominance over women – Viewing women as inferior or objects to control.
- Rejection of “feminine” traits – Mocking men who show empathy or sensitivity.
These attitudes can lead to dangerous behaviours, including bullying, sexual harassment, domestic abuse, and even violent crime.
How Toxic Masculinity Affects Women & Girls
Young women may encounter toxic masculinity in different ways:
- Street harassment – Catcalling, unwanted comments, or intimidation.
- Unhealthy relationships – Partners who display controlling or aggressive behaviour.
- Workplace discrimination – Being undermined, interrupted, or subjected to sexist remarks.
- Online abuse – Cyberbullying, revenge porn, or misogynistic trolling.
Recognising these patterns early can help women set boundaries and seek support when needed.
How Young Girls & Women Can Stay Safe
1. Trust Your Instincts
If a situation or person makes you uncomfortable, don’t ignore it. Women are often socialised to be polite, but your safety comes first. Walk away, block, or report if necessary.
2. Set Clear Boundaries
In relationships, communicate your limits early.
Say “no” firmly if someone pressures you (romantically, socially, or professionally).
Avoid justifying or over-explaining—your boundaries are valid.
3. Be Aware of Manipulation Tactics
Toxic behaviours can be subtle. Watch for:
- Guilt-tripping (“If you loved me, you’d…”)
- Isolation (Discouraging you from seeing friends/family)
- Gaslighting (Making you doubt your feelings)
4. Build a Support Network
Surround yourself with trusted friends, family, or mentors who respect you.
Join women’s groups or online communities for advice and solidarity.
5. Stay Informed on Consent & Legal Rights
Consent must be clear, enthusiastic, and ongoing. Coercion is not consent. See our blog Consent is Everything: Understanding Sexual Consent.
Know your rights at work/school regarding harassment policies.
Save evidence (screenshots, messages) if you experience abuse.
6. Self-Defence & Safety Strategies
Take a self-defence class to boost confidence.
When out alone, share your location with someone you trust.
Avoid engaging with aggressive individuals—prioritise getting to safety.
7. Challenge Harmful Stereotypes
Call out sexist jokes or comments (if safe to do so).
Support positive masculinity—encourage boys/men to embrace empathy and respect.
Support & Resources in the UK
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, harassment, or emotional distress, the following organisations offer confidential help and advice:
Helplines & Immediate Support
- Women’s Aid – www.womensaid.org.uk | 0808 2000 247 (24-hour helpline)
- Refuge (National Domestic Abuse Helpline) – www.refuge.org.uk | 0808 2000 247
- The Mix (Under 25s) – www.themix.org.uk | 0808 808 4994 (Crisis Messenger: text THEMIX to 85258)
- Rape Crisis England & Wales – www.rapecrisis.org.uk | 0808 802 9999
- Revenge Porn Helpline – www.revengepornhelpline.org.uk | 0345 6000 459
Online Safety & Legal Advice
- Victim Support – www.victimsupport.org.uk | 0808 1689 111
- Citizens Advice (Legal Rights) – www.citizensadvice.org.uk
- UK Safer Internet Centre – www.saferinternet.org.uk
Mental Health Support
- Mind – www.mind.org.uk | 0300 123 3393
- Samaritans (24/7 Emotional Support) – www.samaritans.org | 116 123 (free to call)
Self-Defence & Empowerment
- Suzy Lamplugh Trust (Personal Safety Advice) – www.suzylamplugh.org
- British Association of Self-Defence (BASD) – Find local courses via www.basd.co.uk
Final Thoughts
Toxic masculinity is a societal issue, but women can take steps to protect themselves and advocate for change. By recognising warning signs, setting boundaries, and fostering supportive networks, young girls and women can navigate these challenges more safely.
✔ You have the right to feel safe.
✔ You are not alone—help is available.
✔ Speaking up is strength, not weakness.
If you’re in immediate danger, call 999 (UK emergency number). For non-emergency police assistance, call 101.
Stay aware, stay strong, and know that you deserve respect in every aspect of your life.
